Mona Darling is a professional dominatrix and was a speaker on a panel dedicated to creating inclusive podcasts and stories. I attended that panel and managed to win a free copy of her book Kinky Sex Tips for Curious Girls. I am a firm believer in any knowledge is useful knowledge and I thought it would be useful to share a review with our readers. This book is something that anyone who has ever been curious about topics that might be connected to kink, think Fifty Shades of Grey or some of the things happening in more recent show The Act on Hulu, can easily use as a means to learn a little bit more about the topic.
In her introduction, Darling explains that this book is designed for nervous newbies and is there to help educate you on the subject of kinky interests. The major tenets are that everything inside this book is safe, sane, and consensual and it reaffirms the idea that there is no wrong way, but that you are free to find the path that is right for you. One of the topics that was discussed early on that I think can be applied to any area of relationships or sex is the idea of shame. Human beings experience shame for a variety of reasons and whether these reasons tie back into your sexual desires or to just your daily life there are ways to cope with and release that shame. No matter what you are feeling shame about it is important to discuss it and let these feelings out into the open. Letting shame fester, either in your romantic or personal life, holds you back from your true potential as a person.
Returning back to the direct topic of the book, Darling discusses terminology and topics that connect back to the various types of play that are included under the umbrella of BDSM. She also includes some images and there are actually coloring pages throughout the book with a variety of people in a variety of different outfits and positions. She also includes crosswords and some other games to allow you to take a break and mull over information you’ve just read while taking a bit of a mental break. She also includes a questionnaire and worksheets at the end of the book to allow you to figure out some of the things you may be interested in trying. There are also a number of blank journal pages for you to take notes and reflect on each chapter. Kinky Sex Tips for Curious Girls is a book that can answer a variety of questions for you and whether you actually pursue elements that are presented or just use this as a way to better understand the topic of BDSM it is an easy to read work. Darling wants to make everyone comfortable and provides a safe space within these pages to explore topics that are often considered taboo. You can purchase your copy of Kinky Sex Tips for Curious Girls today.
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